Are you optimistic about achieving your resolutions or have you already admitted defeat and not even bothered to set any? The truth is that it’s good to seek some change and to look to improve things, to improve ourselves.This doesn’t mean that we aren’t great as we are already, just that why not have things be a bit better? 

There are 3 key reasons why people fail to stick to their New Year’s resolutions. In this post I’ll share reasons these as well as 5 tips to help you keep your New Year’s Resolutions.

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Today we're talking about New Year's resolutions and how do you keep your New Year's resolutions, because this is a big, big issue.

Did you know they actually have created a National Ditch New Year's resolutions Day? Oh my God, the 17th of January every year. Isn't that crazy?

But then, actually, it isn't really that crazy because you know, 80% of people actually don't get to meet their New Year's resolutions by the end of January and apparently it's only like about five or eight percent by March are still doing their New Year's resolutions.

That's a tiny, tiny percentage, like Wow!

The thing is, and there's been massive research done on this. A company called, what are they, Strava, that they discovered that the second Friday in January is when your motivation begins to falter. They did this by studying over 30 million global activities across January and found out that this is when people tend to kind of fall off the waggon of whatever it is that they've decided.

I thought it'd be really good to have a talk, though. It's really interesting as I've been sharing about this, a lot of people are saying, "Oh, we don't do resolutions. "

I really want you to think about this. I want you to think about why don't you do New Year's resolutions if you do, and, if you do do them, like what is it that is kind of causing you to kind of to ditch those New Year's resolutions after not too long.

Now, I've got a few reasons why people fail. I want you to think about this because a lot of the time when people don't set New Year's resolutions, it's because they've set them in the past and failed and they don't want to fail again. I can understand people wanting to avoid failure, but we really need to learn from failure and just think of it as feedback and look at going forwards.

Now here's my kind of get-out-of-New-Year's-resolutions thing for, you know, kind of free is, if you already have got a business plan, so you know you got your goal set for your business and you already have got things that you are doing and changes that you are making and who you are becoming, then you might not need to set up any additional New Year's resolutions.

I'm actually still considering mine because I'm in that situation now. Myself and my husband, I think we're going to do some joint ones. We spent nearly all New Year's Eve talking through our 2018, what worked, what didn't work, our lessons. It was such an insightful conversation and if you haven't done that yet, I highly recommend you do that with a loved one or a friend just to make sure that you're not carrying things through into this year.

In fact, in the mindset shift tool that I use, we even have a New Year's session totally all about New Year's resolutions because people tend to have a lot of hangups about them.

So, one reason. If you're in that situation, then you might say, "Well, okay, I'm not going to set any big, massive New Year's resolutions", but maybe there's one little thing that you can do that's not business related, that's more personal.

It might be to do without your health. It might be to do with your relationship or getting into a relationship, you know, or to do with your home environment, whatever it might be. I know I've got some little things that I want to do around that. I'll explain why I'm doing it this way in a bit.

Why is it that people fail? 

I think there's so much stuff at this time of year about, oh, I've overindulged over Christmas.

I want to lose weight, dah, dah, dah, and it's like you've got to look at, well, what do you really value?

 What are your real priorities? What's actually important to you? What are you going to be inspired about to keep moving forward with?

 I think there's this real misconception that, if you're an independent person, you should have to do everything on your own. That is not true at all.

I want you to think about it from the point of view of people go from being dependent to being independent to being interdependent. If you want to know more about that, read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. Awesome book, was life changing for me, in fact. 

So the thing is being independent doesn't mean you have to be doing things in isolation and you can't ask for help, because think about it this way. If you ask for, absolutely, absolutely, asking for help is a strength. Yes, it is.

Knowing when to ask for strength, actually having the courage to do that and asking even if you think you might get a no, that's okay. It's like it's not about the outcome as much as actually just asking and putting it out there. Hey, I'm open for help. I'm open to receiving help and support and guidance. it might come to you in ways that you just never even imagined.

I heard about some books before Christmas. In fact, one of them I'd heard about years ago, and I thought I'd read it. When I looked at it in more detail, it's like, oh no, I didn't read that one, I read that other one that was similar but different.

I've read two books over the holiday period and they have both blown in my mind in different ways and have really helped me moving forward. So you just never know how these things will happen.

just one other thing about asking for help, and I don't know if this is an English thing. Maybe it's a bit of an Irish thing. Maybe it's just a bit of a human thing, but I think people are worried to ask others for help in case there's an inconvenience, in case it puts them out in some way, and so they don't want to impose.

Look, if people aren't in a position to help you, they can say no. They have a mouth, they have a brain. It's up to them to use them in the best way for themselves. So yeah, so put that aside and make sure that you are asking for help.

In fact, that used to be a massive issue for me. I have really reduced that down through the mindset work that I've done and other things I've put in place.

So then we talk about what you can put in place then.  

Why is this important and meaningful to you? And if it isn't, then, you know, don't set out to do it because you're probably not going to stick with it.

I think people have this idea like, oh, I'm going to wake up on New Year's Day, I've set this New Year's resolution. I'm going to be a completely different person.

Well, no, of course you're not. You're the same person.

Do you know what makes you a different person is creating new habits, is creating new patterns of thinking and feeling and behaving. That is what actually makes you a different person. It doesn't boom happen overnight just because it's New Year's. I think it's really easy to get fooled into feeling that way.

Pick something small. If you have found it hard to keep New Year's resolutions in the past, just pick one thing.

Even if you find it hard to be consistent with that. Maybe you go,"Oh, well this is my goal" or "This is my vision"  and each day, I don't know what it is yet, but each day I'm going to wake up and I'm going to maybe in your meditation or journaling or even you just lie in bed and go, okay, what's one thing I could do today that will move me towards that goal, that will move me towards that vision.

See what comes to you and do that one thing and then that way you won't feel trapped about, oh, I have to do this, I have to do that, but at least you're making progress every day on that. Or even once a week you put it in your calendar, it pops up, oh, today's a day where I'm going to do something on this.

So small, make it small, but make it consistent. It doesn't have to be the same thing to have consistency.

I think those of us who love variety, that's like music to our ears. Though I have to say actually, getting more focused and getting more consistent, it has just become a lot easier for me to do now.